...wait, oral sex isn't sex? Oral sex completely is sex. "Third base" completely is sex. Otherwise what exactly do girls do together?
That said, I'm right there with you on the importance of feelings and intimacy. Devising exactly what options to give people as answers was a bitch, let me tell you, and I hate boxing things off under labels and into categories, but most people probably wouldn't just post their orgasmic experience in comments. Which is a shame. Yay for non-shyness! Anyway.
Even in one-night stands, though, it's all about intimacy and comfort, I find. Better with a friend than a stranger, unless you're very lucky as far as clicking with the stranger. But there's something that you only find in long-standing relationships - the depth of the feelings, knowing each other so well, having learned each other and the surge of pheromones, or whatever it is, that comes from making love with somebody you actually are in love with.
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Date: 2006-06-02 03:31 pm (UTC)That said, I'm right there with you on the importance of feelings and intimacy. Devising exactly what options to give people as answers was a bitch, let me tell you, and I hate boxing things off under labels and into categories, but most people probably wouldn't just post their orgasmic experience in comments. Which is a shame. Yay for non-shyness! Anyway.
Even in one-night stands, though, it's all about intimacy and comfort, I find. Better with a friend than a stranger, unless you're very lucky as far as clicking with the stranger. But there's something that you only find in long-standing relationships - the depth of the feelings, knowing each other so well, having learned each other and the surge of pheromones, or whatever it is, that comes from making love with somebody you actually are in love with.
Or, well. Those are my own two cents, anyway.